As human beings, we expect something or the other. Sometimes, if not too much at least in a small way.
There is a saying that goes, “You never realize the true value of something when you are having it or when it is near you. Only when it goes away from your hand, do you realize its full worth.”
That is so true. Sometimes even though a person has done so many things for us, we fail to appreciate it but expect more from them and when it doesn’t happen we decide to push them away from our life. But at one point of time, later or sooner, we regret the decision that we took. After all, even if they didn’t meet up to our expectations, they were there when we needed them the most. The most wonderful part is that, we realize this when we come across another person in our life and our expectation that they would be there for us when we need them (if not 100% at least 20%) falls flat.
But one well-known thing is rebounds never work out fine. Yes, sometimes it works out good but in most of the cases it ends up the same way. The same mistake happens again except that the cover would be different and the crux of the problem would be the same.
A question now rises in my head.
“A person who claims that you are his/her good friend, would he/she stand by you and defend your relationship with him/her and continue to be the same with you, not bothered about what other people are saying (by pulling his/her leg and making fun) or would he/she decide to push you away from his/her life even though he/she understands completely how much he/she means to you?”
In my life, I haven’t come across the former. It has been the latter that I have come across and each and every time I fail to understand why would a person decide to distance himself/herself from you when you are “supposed” to be his/her “good friend”, forgetting everything about the relationship, what each of you have done for each other, just like that and pretending as though there never existed anything between both of you.
And how are you supposed to handle this?
Go along with the flow and get yourself out of his/her life just like how he/she wants it to be?
Or
Give him/her the space that the person is asking from you but still letting them know that you are still there in his/her life and you need them in your life back again as a friend just like the way it used to be?
But at this point I can’t help but wonder if it is so easy for them to close us out, then all these days when they were that every bit of what you would call a good friend,
Was it all a lie? Was there any truth in it at all? If all of it was true or at least partially was also true then how was it possible for them to close us out of their life so easily?
Yes, a lot of questions which could be answered only by the other side. All we could do is assume the answers to these questions.
As the saying goes,
“If you care about someone, then don’t stop yourself from caring and loving the other person even if there is no reciprocation from the other side. All you need to know is your heart holds so much of love that you are capable of loving and be caring about someone else. When the right time comes,
Either the other person will realize your love and regret that they distanced themselves from you
Or
You will realize that all this while you have been showering love on a wrong person who just fails to realize your value.
All you could do is wait patiently for the other person to realize the love and care you have got for him/her and hope that everything goes fine. But even after all this; the one question I keep going back to is,
“Why would a person, who considers you as a good friend, close you out just because others decide to make fun and pull their leg? Isn’t a friend supposed to stand by our side and face the situation together and not let what others are saying about both of affect your friendship?”
If this isn’t friendship then what is?
Love. Inspire. Indulge 